Advances, Affairs, Abuse, Police

Also, if you are a woman, you don't have to go to bed with an employer to keep your job. If you think you will have this problem, there are organizations, legal agencies, and books that are on the market with advice on how to deal with the problem, before and after a proposition has been made. If you want to advance in the business, it's best to avoid it, if possible. It's entirely up to you, and more than one employee has been the advancer, and the poor employer is left in a quandary as how to deal with the situation. Although this is a primarily a problem for women, many men have been on the receiving end of unwanted advances, and there aren't many organizations that he can go to for help.

Another thing to avoid is blatant affairs with your customers, whether men or women. If you are discreet, and I mean discreet, it shouldn't be a problem, but remember, your customers may not be as discreet as you are, and then you have a potential problem that could blow up in your face at any time. You may not only lose a customer, but a job as well.

Another thing that no bartender has to take, whether man or woman, is abusive language from a customer. If your boss says you have to take the abuse or quit, you have legal recourse. Consult an attorney and sue. Don't accept any verbal abuse or threats that your employer wouldn't take. Let your employer be your guideline, if he allows a customer to cuss him out, then you know that he expects the same from you, but if he doesn't allow practices of that type directed at him, then you have every right to demand that you be treated the same as he would be treated. You are not helpless just because you are the employee, consult an attorney, the Civil Liberties Union, the police department, find some organization that deals with similar types of problems, and do what they suggest; if you don't get satisfaction the first time you try, try someone else, until you find someone to help you. Keep trying, don't give up! For almost every major problem, there is some type of legal action that can be taken. Don't be hoodwinked by the general public or your employer, you have more rights than you realize. Stand up for your rights, and you will have more rights than yo realize!

Another problem is the police department. Sometimes when you need their assistance, the officers that respond to your call, do not understand that not only is the business itself liable, but that you are personally liable also. If a customer, that you feel is dangerous to your other customers or yourself, isn't forced to leave the premises, someone can be hurt. It could be you, and you could be maimed or disfigured, or it could happen to a customer. If it happens to a customer, and you didn't do everything possible to avoid the situation, you can be held personally liable for damages in a court of law. If the ever happens, take the matter to the officer's superior, until you receive satisfaction.